Applaud the Fu*king Mom Too!

Starting this off by saying this is in no way about my husband not being an incredible father, because he is!

Listen, dads: you are great, but so are moms, so why the f*ck are you the only one being applauded in public?

A prime example happened this weekend. We were at my husband's softball tournament, he is pushing our fancy pantsy WonderFold up a hill back to the games....a whole team is clapping and telling him "wow look at you, such a good dad"...I'm trailing behind watching this happen...THE WAGON WAS EMPTY...where were the TWO kids? In MY arms. One on each hip. Where are my claps? I'm confused...Yes, they could have missed the fact that the wagon was empty, but also applauding a parent for being a parent? Weird flex.

I made it known, too. I was like, "yeah, what a good dad pushing an empty stroller while I'm hoofing it up this hill with the kids on my hips," said in the most sarcastic voice I could summon. So now I'm probably a bitch, but for real. I mean, give credit where credit is due.

I am not saying don't praise dads- but PRAISE PARENTS. Moms are out there putting in the work, and because 90% of the time (in my experience) they're the default parent, they go unrecognized. It is expected of them. They often do the heavy lifting and it goes unrecognized. It is so important to praise BOTH parents. Idk about y'all but I expect my husband to be an active parent lol. Like yeah, he changes diapers, he takes the kids to the park, he feeds them- BECAUSE HE IS A DAD....I do it too, so why are we only praising dads for basic parenting?

I'd be all about praising someone for being a good parent in public- but why the f*ck is it always the dad? Parenting is HARD, and being a mom is SO HARD. The mental load outweighs the dads, and that is the kicker--like he doesn't sleep with a human attached to his boob. Moms do. But please, continue praising for basic parenting.

Dads should absolutely be praised for their efforts, but that recognition shouldn't come at the expense of moms who are doing just as much, if not more. It’s a tough balance, and highlighting the work of both parents can help change that narrative.

Also kids are a different breed with dads versus moms. Why do they play so well and independently for their dad? When I have them by myself, they're consistently trying to get IN MY SKIN. In most cases, moms are the most sacred thing to a child; they want their mom when they are sad, mad, sick, happy, hungry.. I mean, I want my mom(s) and I am 28 years old. This is often an overwhelming feeling, and it's why you hear moms talk about being overstimulated so frequently.

As a mom I have physically fed my child while reading a book to the other, or honestly, on the damn toilet. Like, whatever they need will also be above my needs- just give credit where credit is due.

Moms deserve acknowledgment for their hard work and contributions. It’s crucial to advocate for equal recognition in parenting to create a more balanced appreciation for both parents.

Those of you who feel the same way, just remember you’re not a “bitch” for wanting acknowledgment; I am advocating for fairness in a space that often overlooks the contributions of mothers. It’s important to call it out. I will keep sharing your experiences—it helps to shine a light on these dynamics!

My son- My daughter- and the TWO PEOPLE who deserve credit.